Is It Possible To Stay Lovers For Life?

For twenty years Sharyn Wolf, LCSW has been a marriage counselor and psychotherapist practicing in Manhattan New York City.  She is considered a relationship expert whose advices and suggestions have supposedly helped married couples to build successful marriage and intimate relationship.  Sharyn Wolf is the author of several self-help books:  How to Stay Lovers for Life: Discover a Marriage Counselor’s Tricks of the Trade,  So You Want to Get Married: Guerilla Tactics for Turning a Date into a Mate,  50 Ways To Find A Lover;  Proven Techniques for Finding Someone Special,  Guerrilla Dating Tactics: Strategies, Tips, and Secrets for Finding Romance,  Love Shrinks:  A Memoir of a Marriage Counselor’s Divorce,  This Old Spouse: A Do-It-Yourself Guide to Restoring, Renovating, and Rebuilding Your Relationship.   Regular media presence,  appearances on more than three-hundred television and radio shows such as Oprah show,  48 Hours, CNN,  as well as publications in The Wall Street Journal, Newsweek, The Boston Globe, The Washington Post, The Seattle Times, and The New York Times  made Sharyn Wolf a bestselling psychotherapist author.

One of the areas of discussion that has been broadly debated and talked about has been sex lives of long-married couples.  During twenty years of having very successful career as a marriage relationship authority, Sharyn Wolf has been bringing her expertise to the subject of keeping romance and having love life fresh and exciting based on personal successful marriage and own experience.

On March 16, 2011 The Huffington Post – The Internet Newspaper: news blogs video community published a new story by Sharyn Wolf called Do as I Say, Not as I Do.  All of a sudden, it turned out that after all of these years of promoting eternal love and passion of married intimacy, Mrs. Wolf and her husband only had sex three times in fifteen years despite still loving each other deeply.  In her own words Mrs. Wolf admitted being unfailingly optimistic. She disclosed the fact that while considered a “relationship expert,” she had a failed marriage of her own.  Also, she admitted that despite trying every marriage counseling trick of the trade and trying them at home, “Nothing made a dent in our estrangement”.  Is this fact the best answer to a question of keeping romance going and staying passionate lovers for life?

Is it realistic to stay lovers for life for ordinary people if even widely known expert who knows all the tricks in a book can not accomplish it? Do people have to be apologetic for trying to live life and be happy when they look for that lost excitement, passion and spark through extra-marital affairs?

Famous Irish poet, singer and entertainer Thomas Moore (1779 – 1852) said:  Romantic love is an illusion.  Most of us discover this truth at the end of a love affair or else when the sweet emotions of love lead us into marriage and then turn down their flames.

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