The next step in the dating process is the date itself. After you have decided where you are going and what type of experience you are going to be having it is time to start preparing for the occasion you were waiting for. Be it a single person or a married one there is always a little bit of nervousness regarding the first date. And there are a few things to do and a few things to avoid on your first date as it is your chance to really shine. We have tried to highlight some of the stuff that daters should not neglect on their first dates –
Be Yourself. If there’s any chance you feel a distinct desire to have a future with the person sitting across the table, tell the truth about yourself. Don’t try to fool your date as lies would most definitely be busted in future.
Body Language. Apart from what you talk about it is also about how you talk and carry yourself throughout the date. Avoid being fidgety. Make eye contact. Don’t shake your head or nod vigorously. That is a sign of nervousness. On the whole be confident and put your best foot forward.
Do not drink much. Need we say more on this?
Keep the conversation going. Even if you both share similar interests and tastes there is still a likelihood of coming across a situation where you don’t seem to know what to say next. In that case, things like “Have you ever been to?” “How did your interest in ___ start?” “The setting is perfect, isn’t it?” work. Know the art of keeping a conversation going.
Don’t keep on asking awkward & inappropriate questions. There is no doubt that the person you are dating has some things that he/she doesn’t want to discuss. Hence it is very important to know when to stop with the topic.
Don’t make a snap judgment. Unless your date is a total bugger or a potential nutcase give it another shot before writing off. Rush to first date judgment and you’ll have lots and lots of time to regret the hasty rejection of someone who might have been the true love of your life. Do give the person a fair chance.
Final move. Last but not the least. When you are done with the date and it is time to say good bye it is important to decide what your next move should be. If you would like to meet again state it clearly. If you don’t think there is chemistry call it off. Whatever your intentions it is better to convey them honestly and clearly.
Happy Dating J